You cannot have sex for at least six weeks after delivery: Whether it is a normal delivery or a C-section, your doctor will advise you to stay off sex for the initial six weeks. But don’t be too happy, a women’s sex drive can take up to two years to return to normalcy.
It feels different the first time: When you have sex after your delivery, be prepared to not expect some out-of-the-world experience out of it. The hormonal changes, demands of the newborn, sleeplessness -- all can take a toll on your body, and it might feel like a whole new experience.
Vaginal dryness can be a dampener: If you are breastfeeding, your estrogen levels are at its all time low, and that could lead to vaginal dryness which makes sex, even more, painful.
Your libido goes for a toss: Oxytocin, that is secreted in new mothers to help bond with the baby also decreases her libido. However, the same is true for the father also. Vasopressin, a hormone secreted in men which enable him to bond with the baby, decreases his libido too.
You might have to satisfy yourselves with quickies: Even after you stop breastfeeding or your hormones stop bothering you both, a long unwinding sex session might still be out of the question. Quickies will be a whole new ball game to quench your desire and give you the pleasure of physical intimacy.
Sex will have a different meaning: After childbirth, sex might not be all those wild role plays and trying new exciting positions, it could transform to a more gentle bonding session that calls for more emotional bonding than being just a physical act.